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On the Days You Don’t “Like” Your Spouse
September 4, 2019
Do you ever feel as if you don’t like your spouse? You love them, of course. But there are moments or even days when they grate on your nerves or seem to trod carelessly over your feelings, and you are left feeling resentful, hurt, and angry.
If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. Many couples struggle with this same kind of scenario. But what do you do when you feel as if you dislike your spouse? Here are a few tips for tackling this all-too-common feeling:
First: Know How Normal This Really is
Because lapses in communication are common – especially long-established marriages – resulting feelings of resentment and bitterness are common as well. Many spouses also come to be annoyed by the small quirks and details that they may have overlooked during the “honeymoon phase” of their marriages – quirks that now set their teeth on edge whenever they share space with their partner.
Understand that Communication is Key
The only way that you and your spouse can overcome this hurdle is through talking to one another. Of course, when you’re feeling bitter or unhappy with someone, you’re not likely to want to talk to them. But discussion, no matter how difficult, is the best way to move through the challenges that couples face and begin repairing the problem they have. Even arguments can be effective in moving forward – as long as discussions remain respectful and both partners are allowed time to express their thoughts.
Know When to Seek Help
There are always going to be ups and downs in a marriage. Even the healthiest unions will need work to maintain that health, but those who struggle with communication issues or other problems will often find themselves putting in more work to keep things working long-term. In most cases, the payoff is worth the effort. But when you feel that you’re working without reward – or that the talking you do with your spouse has become entirely circular – it may be time to consult a professional.
Whether you are looking for a life coach or a dedicated relationship coach, the professionals at Hundred Life Design can help you make sense of how you’re feeling – and what to do about it. Navigating the emotions that come with marriage issues can be difficult, but having an objective opinion to intercede and mediate can be very beneficial. Give our experts a call today to find out if professional intervention might be what your marriage needs to feel the love again.